Archive for August, 2009

Aug 17 2009

Be Nice to Your Parent – A Story For Us to Think About

I read the following with mix feelings…sad, sympathy, worry for my own fate.  One said, parents can always take care of their own kids, one, two or ten of them, it’s not a big problem.  But that’s not a sure guarantee that kids can also take care of their old parents.  What is our OWN preparation for this?? Of course, SET SOME SAVING for US to spend during old age time.  DON’T RELY ON KIDS to take care of us.  In my own opinion, if we hope to get some care from the kids when we’re old, we have to also check our current the relationship with our parents.  There’s a RULE of NATURE; If we do good things to others, in return, people will always treat us with due respect.  If it’s the opposite, then we know the outcomes.  It’s most relevant to family’s relationship.  We care for our old parent wholeheartedly, we will be awarded with the same care later.  I always believe in that.  Think about it….    


I am a retired civil servant in my 70s and a widower.  I live in a single storey house with my spinster daughter who retired two years ago as a government clerk.  All these years my daughter has been looking after us.  I walk about with the aid of the walking stick.  My other three children and their families are doing very well but for one reason or another, they decided that it is best I remain with my single daughter.

I have decided to leave my house to her but they were unhappy as they expected a share of the house after I die.  My children don’t give me any financial support.  They will do so only after I have used up my modest savings.  When they visit, they bring me fruits and cakes.  A close relative told me that they are afraid that their sister might take any money they give me.  My friends and relatives say that they should at least give some “guilt money” to help out as they are free from the responsibility of looking after me in my old age.

With that extra money, I will feel more secure and we can be more extravagent where food is concerned.  I don’t want my daughter to use her money for my medical expenses, etc.  She has done more that enough.  I will be bed-ridden.  I feel so guilty that I have become such a burden to her.  She can’t be free like others to go where and when she pleases because she is worried about my safety.  She has sacrificed so much for us.  I hope she won’t have to do so for too long.

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Aug 14 2009

Big Up Your Blog

Published by szanuar under Blogging Tips

For those of us who own a blog, followings are VERY USEFUL TIPS to consider.  It’s an open secret that BLOG can GIVE US MONETARY BENEFITS if being publicised properly.  As for me, there are still few tips that I’m still unable to follow especially when comes to TIPS NO. 2, to POST FREQUENTLY…But, one day I’ll change…If that can bring me more advantages…Why Not!! I’LL CHANGE, I’LL CHANGE, I’LL CHANGE….ehhmm….Happy reading…

Chances are your blog is not going to land you a book or a movie deal like Julie Powell or make you a superstar like Perez Hilton.  But it can bring you personal satisfaction, give you an outlet for expression, help you connect with others and even assist you with leveraging a business.  Along the way, you may even come across a little fame.  Here’s how;

  1. Blog about what you are passionate about, said Jennifer Mc Lean of blog search engine Technorati.  Coming up with fesh and interesting content is easier and if you’re only blogging for money or fame, readers will pick up on it, she said.
  2. Make sure you post frequently, said Gretchen Rubin, who blogs about happiness.  “That is a sign of vitality on a blog”.  And have a clear idea of what you are blogging about.  Blogs do better when you have a focus.
  3. If you are an aspiring author, show that you have a loyal following, said Brooke Warner, senior editor at Seal Press.  “When someone says I get 25,000 unique visitors a month, we pay attention”, she said.  “They have readers and either their story or writing is really good”.
  4. Develop your unique voice.  Powell, who blogged about cooking about all the recipes in a Julia Child cookbook, had a “unique hook – nobody else had done that”, said Ellen Gerstein, vice president of marketing for John Wiley & Sons.  She also brought a lot of humour to her blog. 
  5. Spend time on marketing, said Darren Rowse of, a blog with tips for bloggers.  With millions of blogs afloat on the web, writing posts isn’t enough to attract followers, he said.  Focus on writing guest posts for other blogs or networking, for example.

Source : The Star Newspaper, 13 August 2009

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