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Oct 29 2009

Couple Who Gave House To Son Now Homeless

Published by szanuar under be nice to your parent

Sin Chew Daily reported that an elderly couple in Singapore who gave up their duplex to their son ended up homeless after they were chased out of the house by the ungrateful offspring.  The couple now call the staircase of a school their home.  The man, who was named as Lim, was a manager before he retired.  He had a son and a daughter who lived in Jurong, Singapore.

Relating his ordeal to a secretary of the school, Lim said he and his wife decided to give their duplex home to their son as a wedding gift about two years ago.  The couple thought that they could live in the house with their son.  He, however, decided to sell the property for RM960,000 to buy another condominium.  Lim and his wife were then sent off to live with his daughter.

After a year, the daughter decided that they were no longer welcome and banned from touching her children.  The couple could not enter the house after their daughter changed the locks to the house.

I’m not sure, how true is this story but it seems to bad for an action of human beings.  Can you imagine chasing OUR OWN PARENT OUT FROM THEIR OWN HOUSE!!  How ungrateful….They brought us to the world…Mom carried us in their tummy for nine month.  It’s not always a wonderful exercise.  For nine consecutive months, mom has to forget her own needs…consideration would always go to the baby.  No drugs, no cigar, no drinks, no chemical, NO..NO..NO…just for the sake of healthy baby.  When we were born, our parents priorities has changed.  Everything goes to the kids…They wants us to have good life, good food, good shelter, good education…Every good things for us…So that we can lead a successful life in future…That’s what their ONLY HOPE…THE HOPE that we can’t even PAYBACK during entire life.  Yet, there are still an unshamed, ungrateful kids who are willing to take over their parent properties, chase them away and make them homeless.   

WE CAN’T EVEN PAYBACK THEIR MERCY. WE CAN’T EVEN MATCH THEIR SACRIFICE…WHY CAN’T WE BE GOOD TO THEM…LIFE IS NOT THAT LONG.  DO GOOD THINGS TO OUR PARENTS AS HOW WE WANT OUR KIDS TO TREAT US. REMEMBER, WHAT WE DO TO OUR PARENTS, WE WILL ALWAYS BE REWARDED WITH THE SAME TREATMENT BY OUR KIDS. GOOD FOR GOOD, BAD FOR BAD….THINK ABOUT IT…

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Aug 17 2009

Be Nice to Your Parent – A Story For Us to Think About

I read the following with mix feelings…sad, sympathy, worry for my own fate.  One said, parents can always take care of their own kids, one, two or ten of them, it’s not a big problem.  But that’s not a sure guarantee that kids can also take care of their old parents.  What is our OWN preparation for this?? Of course, SET SOME SAVING for US to spend during old age time.  DON’T RELY ON KIDS to take care of us.  In my own opinion, if we hope to get some care from the kids when we’re old, we have to also check our current the relationship with our parents.  There’s a RULE of NATURE; If we do good things to others, in return, people will always treat us with due respect.  If it’s the opposite, then we know the outcomes.  It’s most relevant to family’s relationship.  We care for our old parent wholeheartedly, we will be awarded with the same care later.  I always believe in that.  Think about it….    

FEELING GUILTY ABOUT BECOMING A BURDEN TO DAUGHTER 

I am a retired civil servant in my 70s and a widower.  I live in a single storey house with my spinster daughter who retired two years ago as a government clerk.  All these years my daughter has been looking after us.  I walk about with the aid of the walking stick.  My other three children and their families are doing very well but for one reason or another, they decided that it is best I remain with my single daughter.

I have decided to leave my house to her but they were unhappy as they expected a share of the house after I die.  My children don’t give me any financial support.  They will do so only after I have used up my modest savings.  When they visit, they bring me fruits and cakes.  A close relative told me that they are afraid that their sister might take any money they give me.  My friends and relatives say that they should at least give some “guilt money” to help out as they are free from the responsibility of looking after me in my old age.

With that extra money, I will feel more secure and we can be more extravagent where food is concerned.  I don’t want my daughter to use her money for my medical expenses, etc.  She has done more that enough.  I will be bed-ridden.  I feel so guilty that I have become such a burden to her.  She can’t be free like others to go where and when she pleases because she is worried about my safety.  She has sacrificed so much for us.  I hope she won’t have to do so for too long.

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